Pchum Ben Day

Understanding Pchum Ben: A Time for Family and Ancestral Respect

In October this year, Cambodia lights up with the spirit of Pchum Ben. The name itself is a fusion of two Khmer words: “Pchum,” meaning “to gather together,” and “Ben,” which represents a “ball of food.” This grand celebration lasts for a full 15 days and stands as a tribute to ancestors reaching as far back as seven generations. It’s no exaggeration to say that Pchum Ben is one of Cambodia’s most cherished holidays.

The First 14 Days: Dak Ben

The journey of Pchum Ben begins with what we call “Dak Ben,” the initial 14 days. During this period, families living near a pagoda take turns whipping up scrumptious meals for the monks and a stream of visitors who flock to the pagoda. There’s a touching belief that the spirits of departed loved ones gather at the pagoda, eagerly awaiting the homemade dishes prepared by their kin.

A Lesson in Gratitude to Parents

Before setting off to the pagoda, children have a heartwarming tradition. They lovingly prepare lunch for their parents. This gesture stems from a deep-rooted belief: “What you have at home is more powerful than the gods in the pagoda. Who are these household gods? They are your parents.” Cambodians hold their parents in high regard for the gift of life, care, and concern they’ve showered upon them. Neglecting parents is considered rude and disrespectful. The equation is simple: make your parents happy, and happiness will find its way into your life. Your children will follow your example and respect and love you in return.

The Main Event: Pchum Ben

On the pinnacle day of Pchum Ben, Cambodians embark on a special journey. They visit at least three pagodas and the sites where their ancestors once walked. To ensure the monks get their food in time, Cambodians need to reach the pagoda before 11:00 a.m. You see, monks refrain from eating after noon, so it’s essential to make it there before the clock strikes 12. The morning starts early, around 4:00 a.m., as people diligently prepare food, fruit, and rice. They craft little food balls and carry them to the pagoda, where they gently toss them just outside the temple. Here’s the fascinating part: some ancestors, especially those who may have erred in their lifetime, are believed to be unable to enter the temple even in spirit form. They can only consume food prepared by their descendants. So, those food balls are a tribute to them. It’s believed that if these spirits don’t see their relatives bringing them food, they might harbor anger, and that’s something no one wishes for.

Bringing It Home: Family Gatherings

The 15th day marks the pinnacle of Pchum Ben, and it’s also the conclusion of the ceremony. Afterward, Cambodian people get a three-day public holiday in October to visit their hometowns and reunite with family. Apart from the pagoda visits, families usually make time for a brief gathering somewhere nearby, sharing meals and precious moments together.